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Let’s Talk About Love

Drawing on the Bible and years of counselling, Deborah explores kinds of love, friendship, communication, emotions and conflict, to help families love one another well.

姜廖晖老师
36 episodes · 15 hours

Originally a radio programme on Far East Broadcasting, with hosts Meiling and Kaichuan in conversation with Deborah; shared on Dobany with her permission.

  1. 1The Deepest Longing Is LoveDeborah explains why love is our deepest need and the real source of change, starting with…24:22
  2. 2Love That Says You BelongOn our need to belong: how favouritism breeds jealousy, why children need to feel part of…23:39
  3. 3Where Self-Giving Love Comes FromThrough Peter being asked three times “Do you love me?”, Deborah shows that self-giving lo…23:53
  4. 4Friendship, the Root of Every LoveDeborah shares how she lost friends in hard times and found true ones, and why friendship…23:13
  5. 5Choosing Good FriendsWisdom from Proverbs and David and Jonathan: first become healthy and independent yourself…28:49
  6. 6Becoming Friends with Your FamilyHow to build friendship with your husband, children and ageing parents: get to know them o…27:13
  7. 7Love and Truth Beneath Every ConversationFrom Jesus becoming flesh, Deborah shows that good communication means living out love and…23:51
  8. 8Five Levels of CommunicationFrom greetings and facts to opinions, feelings and deepest needs, learn the five levels of…27:09
  9. 9Finding Each Other’s Love CodeUsing the picture of a love bank account, Deborah shows that each person receives love dif…26:40
  10. 10Love That Reaches the HeartContinuing the love languages, especially acts of service, Deborah tells how making her hu…27:51
  11. 11Becoming a Generous GiverTrue abundance is not wealth but the ability to keep giving; see how a giving or grasping…25:46
  12. 12Three Mindsets: Scarcity, Striving, AbundanceComparing three mindsets, living for today, chasing achievement, or valuing relationships…22:52
  13. 13Chasing Away Negative ThoughtsThrough the image of nine ants, learn to spot automatic negative thoughts and see people a…25:11
  14. 14Emotions, the Key to ConnectionEmotions are a good gift from God that we often misuse; learn where they come from and how…26:36
  15. 15When Closeness Brings ConflictThe closer we get, the more our differences show; conflict often comes from our families o…25:30
  16. 16How Men and Women Differ, from the BibleMany marriage conflicts come from built-in differences; looking back to God’s design, lear…26:00
  17. 17Being Your Husband’s Best FriendMore on how men and women differ, reason and feeling each have strengths, and why a wife s…25:21
  18. 18What Our Childhood Home Gave UsMarriage conflicts often trace back to how we grew up; learn the seven needs a family shou…25:18
  19. 19Letting Children Learn to Make Their Own ChoicesDeborah explains the third family need: letting go in stages by age so children learn to d…24:48
  20. 20Staying Emotionally Close to FamilyThe last two family needs: staying emotionally connected to those who matter and living wi…23:52
  21. 21The Invisible Dance in a MarriageAfter reviewing the seven family needs, Deborah shows how family culture shapes us below a…23:57
  22. 22Finding Balance Between Control and IndulgenceStarting from controlling and permissive homes, learn to accept a spouse who differs from…24:35
  23. 23How Childhood Attachment Shapes MarriageDeborah introduces four attachment styles, showing how a baby's bond with its mother carri…24:26
  24. 24Conflict Belongs in a Healthy MarriageAfter reviewing the attachment styles, Deborah explains that arguing is normal, never argu…22:53
  25. 25Five Ways We Handle ConflictAttacking, giving in, freezing, avoiding, and win-win: Deborah walks through where each co…22:53
  26. 26Personality Types, Part 1: Driven and OutgoingUsing the DISC personality model to understand ourselves and family, focusing on the drive…25:20
  27. 27Personality Types, Part 2: Steady and CarefulContinuing the DISC model with the steady S type and careful C type, their strengths and w…23:57
  28. 28Resolving Conflict Starts with ListeningDrawing on 'quick to listen, slow to speak', Deborah teaches couples not to interrupt, to…23:43
  29. 29Speaking the Truth in LoveHear the real point behind a partner's words, know why you are speaking, and learn to talk…24:47
  30. 30Under the Anger Is a Longing for ClosenessOn stonewalling and sticking to one issue, how men and women react differently in conflict…23:37
  31. 31Finding the Roots of Our EmotionsUsing the picture of a tree of life, Deborah helps us trace negative emotions to the thoug…25:40
  32. 32Healing Old Wounded MemoriesFacing distant parents' criticism and old hurts, Deborah shares how first-generation belie…26:31
  33. 33Forgiveness Is a Choice of the HeartStarting from the parable of the unforgiving servant, Deborah explains forgiveness as a ch…23:48
  34. 34Living Together After ForgivenessMust we stay close after forgiving? Deborah contrasts needy love with mature love, helping…25:32
  35. 35Building a House of RelationshipIntroducing Dr. John Gottman's Sound Relationship House: relationships matter more than a…24:51
  36. 36A Family with a Shared PurposeA review of all seven levels of the relationship house, ending with the top level of share…22:56