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Ruby老师

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基督徒心理咨询师
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Ruby 老师（罗斌）是加拿大注册心理咨询师，在加拿大从事华人家庭教育工作三十年，也是两个孩子的妈妈。她学过家庭治疗、依恋理论、沙盘游戏和小组辅导，多年陪伴华人父母和孩子走过亲子、婚姻和原生家庭的难处。

十三岁那年，父亲在洪水中离世。她从一个很深地缺过爱的孩子，慢慢学会什么是真正的爱，什么其实是控制。她相信：爱，是最短的路。

著有《不是哈佛，是爱：一个妈妈用三十年学会的事》。在多伴你，她讲授《兴起作母亲》和《与原生家庭和好》。

Series

SeriesReconciling with Your Family of Origin3 posts · Ruby老师
Reconciling with Your Family of Origin

See the patterns childhood left, and rewrite your story in God.

3 posts
SeriesArise as a Mother5 posts · Ruby老师
Arise as a Mother

With or without children of your own, every Christian can become a spiritual mother.

5 posts
SeriesNot Harvard, but Love5 posts · Ruby老师
Not Harvard, but Love

What one mother learned over thirty years: how to truly love your children instead of controlling them. For every parent, with or without faith.

5 posts

Articles

The hole became my direction
A child who lacked love can still become one who gives it
Loss can be a beginning
A childhood gap
UnseenClinging to loveControl to feel safePassing the wound on
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Once seenTreasuring each dayUnderstanding others' painBecoming a giver
Not Harvard, but Love 3 ·

童年缺爱的父母，怎样不把伤传给孩子

很多年以后，我才明白：十三岁那年我心里留下的那个洞，其实是“爱的缺失”。也正是因为这个洞，我一生都在寻找爱，也在学习如何去爱，更在渴望成为一…

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Boundaries Aren't Walls. They're Protection
See your family patterns first; then you can stop people-pleasing
A healthy person can say no
From pleasing to boundaries
People-pleasingLoved only if good enoughAfraid to say noCriticizing to control
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Healthy boundariesYou already deserve loveLove without being trappedInfluence by love, example
Reconciling with Your Family of Origin 2 ·

See the Pattern, Stop People-Pleasing

Our family of origin is our roots. Our emotions, our relationships and…